What this is for

Most misunderstandings between people are not about bad intentions — they are about a question nobody asked, because asking it directly would have sounded like an accusation. whydoing.com exists to make that question askable: anonymously, from both sides, and without anyone having to defend themselves.

How we handle this

  • No behaviour is treated as a character flaw. People almost always have a reason.
  • Answering is anonymous and takes no account.
  • Results are aggregated. Individual answers are never tied to a person.